Disability History Month: Experiences from the SCM Community

As part of our Disability History Month X Honest Church pop-up, we asked our SCM Community to share their experiences of when churches have done disability welcome well, and when there's been room for improvement. Here's what they shared.

Think about your theology

Throughout my adolescence I was prayed over for healing for symptoms I now know are chronic mental illness and physical conditions. Prayer was always seen as the answer to everything, so when I didn’t ‘get better’ (and in fact got a lot worse) based on the theology I was taught I knew that meant it was a problem with me - one that God didn’t think deserved to be ‘fixed’.

Think about what you offer

There have been multiple churches I have attended that display the sign saying they have a loop system in place, but when I’m there I find out it either doesn’t work or the service is not using the microphones for it to feed into. When this happens it means I rely on simply knowing the liturgy, but attempting to lipread across a 1000 year old stone church often means I am completely oblivious to notices or sermons. This could so easily be fixed by simply using the equipment that is already present in the church building, or not advertising the loop system when it’s not working.

Moll's Story

My current religious community are always open to learning and adjusting, and the small things have made the biggest impact like not expecting me to help with moving furniture, asking about my conditions, and learning how they can support me practically. After making an off-hand comment that we struggled to use the mugs at chapel, the next week they had all been replaced without us ever explicitly asking! I was actually with my faith community when I received my ASD diagnosis- my chaplain hugged me, told me she loved me and that she was so happy for me. To have the reaction of the first person I told to be positive, not one that implied I was impaired or that I have a struggle ahead of me, has really helped me come to terms with this understanding of myself.

Katy's Story

Church felt a safe and welcoming place growing up, and part of that was the fantastic effort they made regarding the inclusion and accommodation of my mum's disabilities. As a young carer, I often felt the need to look out for my Mum in social situations or with unfamiliar people but in church, this was not the case. People were able to see more than my Mum's wheelchair and physical impairments, and get to know and understand her as a person. I felt they were one of the only groups of people who took time to invest in her, talk to her as opposed to ignoring her or just talking to me.
Our family was regularly offered lifts to church events when my Dad could not take us, and the congregation also did a school drop off rota for my siblings and me everyday for a year when my Mum's condition deteriorated. In these ways they showed me what a church family should be like, and how to come around not just one person, but their whole family, in supporting and loving them.
Members of my church also started a house group based at my house so that my Mum could easily attend, preventing the accessibility of the host house from limiting her participation. This was not something she had to push to set up and run all by herself but something she could attend, and enjoy the community and fellowship that followed. We also had a retired vicar regularly preaching who used a wheelchair, and it was great to see a diverse range of people given leadership opportunities within the church.
Obviously no church is perfect, but writing this has given me time to reflect on how truly brilliant they were at supporting my family growing up, enabling us to fully participate in the life of the church and demonstrating the love and value God has for all.